Comments on: Taken for Granted http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/ the story of us - exposed Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:01:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: amen http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-2186 amen Thu, 21 Apr 2011 11:59:47 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-2186 When it comes to independence, it could be the person has gotten so use to taking care of themselves and others around, and in turn, the significant other takes you for granted. Its not that you don't need someone, but when it comes to the trust of the other person to be there for you for once, they are late or don't put an effort to your need taking for granted that you are ok and will do it yourself because that's who you are. Where's the balance in being independent and finding someone like you to put someone elses needs in front of yours from time to time? When it comes to independence, it could be the person has gotten so use to taking care of themselves and others around, and in turn, the significant other takes you for granted. Its not that you don’t need someone, but when it comes to the trust of the other person to be there for you for once, they are late or don’t put an effort to your need taking for granted that you are ok and will do it yourself because that’s who you are. Where’s the balance in being independent and finding someone like you to put someone elses needs in front of yours from time to time?

]]> By: JJ http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-2095 JJ Sat, 22 Jan 2011 18:04:11 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-2095 I would first like to make a few comments on the string of comments before me. To say we "don't have to have someone" are the words of someone who has at some point given their all to someone else and has felt badly mistreated, deeply hurt and does not want to go through that again. Kind of like, once you put your hand on the fire and got burned, you kinda don't want to do that again! People do take each other for granted and we actually do need each other in very intimate ways, but I would suggest that rather than withdraw from pain realize that life is a "RISK" and without some pain and suffering, how can we really grow...so maybe when we say someone has taken us for granted, we should look at ourselves and take the lesson well, to be sure that we do not take someone else for granted. Really the whole thing is about perception..we somehow as humans beings are all the same, and yet our perceptions are different, I would guess because we have all experienced things a little differently. The bottom line is, maybe we just need to change how we feel, love ourselves, be honest with ourselves then the world I am sure would not be taken for granted! I would first like to make a few comments on the string of comments before me. To say we “don’t have to have someone” are the words of someone who has at some point given their all to someone else and has felt badly mistreated, deeply hurt and does not want to go through that again. Kind of like, once you put your hand on the fire and got burned, you kinda don’t want to do that again!

People do take each other for granted and we actually do need each other in very intimate ways, but I would suggest that rather than withdraw from pain realize that life is a “RISK” and without some pain and suffering, how can we really grow…so maybe when we say someone has taken us for granted, we should look at ourselves and take the lesson well, to be sure that we do not take someone else for granted.

Really the whole thing is about perception..we somehow as humans beings are all the same, and yet our perceptions are different, I would guess because we have all experienced things a little differently. The bottom line is, maybe we just need to change how we feel, love ourselves, be honest with ourselves then the world I am sure would not be taken for granted!

]]> By: Renee http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-1196 Renee Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:48:05 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-1196 One more thing, "In today's world" is sort of silly I think. Do you really believe "todays world" is that different from "yesterdays"? One more thing, “In today’s world” is sort of silly I think. Do you really believe “todays world” is that different from “yesterdays”?

]]> By: Renee http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-1195 Renee Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:46:14 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-1195 I am shocked at the level of superficiality and ignorance I found in this strand of posts. If you really believe this strongly in your "independence" you will perhaps find yourself in a very lonely world protecting your "stuff" from people like you. I never want to take the people I love for granted and prefer to think of my friends and family as interdependent. Think of it like a bee hive, an ant hill or any working unit in nature. If you truly believe people don't really need to connect and need each other then what you are saying to me is that you don't need others and that living below the baseline of happiness is better than rising up. Sad to say it is just immature talk. I am shocked at the level of superficiality and ignorance I found in this strand of posts. If you really believe this strongly in your “independence” you will perhaps find yourself in a very lonely world protecting your “stuff” from people like you.

I never want to take the people I love for granted and prefer to think of my friends and family as interdependent. Think of it like a bee hive, an ant hill or any working unit in nature. If you truly believe people don’t really need to connect and need each other then what you are saying to me is that you don’t need others and that living below the baseline of happiness is better than rising up. Sad to say it is just immature talk.

]]> By: carol scholl http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-1053 carol scholl Tue, 18 Mar 2008 13:41:51 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-1053 so very true....when people take others for granted it truly shows how selfish they really are...the one being taken for granted most often catches on and then completely closes off the willingness to help...more often than not it is children using parents for favors but not returning them.....when the parent needs them..........only in death, do they feel remorse so very true….when people take others for granted it truly shows how selfish they really are…the one being taken for granted most often catches on and then completely closes off the willingness to help…more often than not it is children using parents for favors but not returning them…..when the parent needs them……….only in death, do they feel remorse

]]> By: Anonymous http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-39 Anonymous Sat, 29 Apr 2006 09:39:34 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-39 I too agree that your summary is really true, but do you think that sometimes that the independent people are the ones that sometimes take people for granted and end up hurting them? I too agree that your summary is really true, but do you think that sometimes that the independent people are the ones that sometimes take people for granted and end up hurting them?

]]> By: Anonymous http://jasonandngoc.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Anonymous Sat, 04 Mar 2006 14:46:18 +0000 http://explicit/?p=11#comment-36 i think you have said that really well. im deff. with you on that whole dependant thing. i think that now a day people are going going out wth people bcuz they like the "idea" of having someone do all those sweet things. but really, you dont "need" someone. yeah it is nice to have that special someone to do all those sweet things for you. but just ask yourself, "do i really like this person for who they are?, or am i just in love with the things they do for me?" if you ask me i think that peole are just blind. its kind of like that saying "they hear the words but they arent listening to them" i think you have said that really well. im deff. with you on that whole dependant thing. i think that now a day people are going going out wth people bcuz they like the “idea” of having someone do all those sweet things. but really, you dont “need” someone. yeah it is nice to have that special someone to do all those sweet things for you. but just ask yourself, “do i really like this person for who they are?, or am i just in love with the things they do for me?” if you ask me i think that peole are just blind. its kind of like that saying “they hear the words but they arent listening to them”

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